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Why do people obsess over things ?

‘Why did she say this to me, how dare she insult me like this?’ My younger sister who is visiting from the US was busy complaining about a cousin who came to visit her. She was replaying a stressful conversation she had hours ago. Even the next day over dinner this conversation seemed to be the only topic of discussion.


Why do people obsess over things?

Different people obsess over things in different ways and for different reasons. Some people are more prone to stress than others and it shows in different ways in their behaviour.
Many times people want to get rid of a situation but due to a habitual thought pattern they are unable to do so and keep on replaying it.

Keep a time limit

If you are seeking support from friends in getting rid of your obsessive habit then set yourself a time limit. Decide on how much time you are willing to give this problem, on talking about it. Keep your focus on a solution. 

Expressive writing


This helps in breaking the habit pf stressing. Research has also shown that expressive writing was effective in reducing the symptoms of depression amongst those with a tendency towards 
brooding.

Change your behaviour

You can also change your feelings by changing your behaviour.

Take the ‘Fake it till you make it’ approach. Do this by making a few conscious choices to add some new stress management activities to your lives.

Getting regular exercise, practicing meditation and a few days in the week and indulging yourself in your favourite hobby, these are some of the techniques you can use to relieve stress.



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Urban Indian women choose career over motherhood: Survey


 A majority of young married working women in Indian metropolices are choosing career over family as they are in no mood to raise kids, a survey released here Thursday said.
About 1,200 married, working women without children in the age group of 24-30 in Delhi, Mumbai,Bangalore and other major cities were interviewed by the Associated Chambers of Commerce and Industry of India (Assocham) during March and April.
While Mumbai topped the survey, Bangalore came in second followed by Delhi.
"Over 650 of the working women said that they won't be starting a family anytime soon as career advancement and higher education was their priority, which they couldn't sacrifice to raise kids," said the survey.
Another 200 respondents were of the view that pregnancy would spoil their physical appearance while around 70 considered themselves too young to be a mother.

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Haryana Govt dept prescribes ‘decent’ dress code for staff


As if khaps of Haryana were not enough to guard the “conservative” image of the state and the skewed sex ratio did not underline the male dominance in society adequately, the Haryana Women and Child Department (WCD) has now passed a diktat to enforce “decent” office dressing for its staff.

This becomes all the more pronounced given the fact that everybody from the minister to the Financial Commissioner, the Principal Secretary and the Director, WCD, are all women.

The directive, issued by a superintendent for the then Director (she was transferred as the Deputy Commissioner, Karnal, in the reshuffle effected on May 4), Renu S Phulia, heading a department working for women development, was passed a fortnight back and circulated to the field staff last week.

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How To Conduct An Exit Interview


When an organization grows, the recruitment of new employees becomes necessary.
This leads to the hassle of conducting interviews and giving appointments to candidates who have been filtered for the job. 

1. Be through
Make sure you have a thorough understanding of the position for which you are going to interview the candidate. This will help you decide whether the candidate has a profile matching the job description or not. Also go through the candidate’s resume and highlight points on which you may want toquestion the applicant.

2. Well begun is half done
Start off on a positive note. There is no harm in making the interviewee feel welcome. It is not an interviewer’s prerogative to scare the life out of a candidate and make him as uneasy as you can. 

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How to Deal with rude people at work

We encounter rude people everywhere, especially at our work places.
They are simply…rude. There’s possibly no reason for them to be like that towards you, but they just are. It’s appalling at times: cutting you in the coffee line, or getting aggressive for no reason, or not responding when you greet them in the morning.
1.Turn around and face the perpetrator
Rude people are as worse as the bullies you faced in high school. You thought you’d never have to face them again in your adult life. But here they are again. Rude people think that they can get away with murder, a cocky confidence of being the alpha male or female of the pack. It could be a case ofmood swings, but there’s only so much you can take. Turn around and look them in the eye.
2 Gandhigiri
Remember Munnabhai and his wise words? This approach works sometimes. Say someone is knowingly or unknowingly being rude and arrogant towards you. For example, your office peon tells you in an acerbic tone to come and get your tea from the pantry, you don’t need to stoop to his level and raise your voice.
3 Don’t pay them much attention
Unfortunately, some people have never had the social training on how to be polite and well behaved in a civil society. There is no point in trying to change them. Avoiding them is the best option here. If you have to interact with them, keep your interaction to a minimum. Be the “hi, hello” kinds, as they say. Talk business and nothing else: “Please courier this packet to the mentioned address. Thanks.” The important thing to remember is to not lose your own temper, or else what’s the difference between that person and yourself?



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Bathinda prepares for PM’s visit


It will be a special day for the Malwa region on Saturday when Prime Minister Manmohan Singh will formally inaugurate the Rs 20,000-crore Guru Gobind Singh Refinery (GGSR) here.

More than 300 labourers are working round-the-clock to meet the deadline of constructing a helipad and fire and waterproof hangars to accommodate about 15,000 invitees for the occasion. Material for these hangars has been brought from Delhi by a Mumbai-based company that has been awarded the job.

The inaugural ceremony will be attended by several dignitaries, including Punjab Governor Shivraj Patil, Union Petroleum Minister Jaipal Reddy and Union Ministers Ambika Soni, RPM Singh, Ashwani Kumar, Preneet Kaur and top officers of the petroleum ministry. 
Read More: http://www.tribuneindia.com/2012/20120426/punjab.htm

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10 Things You Should Never Say to Your Boss


Saying the wrong thing to your boss can really damage your career. From refusing to work with acolleague to bragging about your irreplaceability, here are 10 things you never want to say to yourmanager:
1. "Can you write that down for me?" When you're talking about the details of a project, writing notes to consult later is great. But you need to take them yourself, not ask your boss to do it for you.
2. "I just booked plane tickets for next month." Never book time off without clearing it with your boss. There might be a major project due that week, or she might have approved others to have that time off and therefore need you around. Check with her first before you do anything irreversible.

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Sunday or Monday, Election Office has no fun day

With assembly polls slated for January 30, it’s all work and no play for the mandarins on duty


To meet the increased workload ahead of the assembly elections scheduled on January 30, the election office here is working round- the-clock. Even Sundays are working days at the office, which is full of statistics on voters that are most sought after by the workers of the political parties.


"For the last many months, we have been coming on Sundays too. The work related to the election data has to be done very meticulously. Consequently, we have been working half days even on a Sunday without a break," said one of the officials not wishing to be named.

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Tips for Handling Hostility at Workplace


Each workplace comprisesindividuals from different upbringing, background and personalities. Since each one of us is different in so many ways,working together is bound to result in conflict and misunderstanding.Although minor disagreements are common, there is always a possibility of work place environment becoming hostile.

Hostility may arise due to various reasons, including jealousy over position and pay, stressful profile, personal insecurities etc. A hostile work environment can be hard to deal with for an employee. Most individuals are unable to last in such an environment, much less thrive there. Working in a hostile environment has a negative impact on the physical, mental and emotional well-being of employees, too. It not only generates feelings of frustration and anger but also restricts a person from giving his best to the organisation.
Accept
The first step towards handling workplace hostility is to acknowledge and accept its presence. Being in a denial mode about the negative treatment in office will further aggravate the stress associated with it.
Be vocal
Speak up instead of suffering the hostility in silence. While many people prefer to keep quiet, it only makes them an easy target for everyone. Be prepared to deal with hostility by defending your actions, expressing displeasure or bringing it to the notice of the HR. Letting your voice heard will make people realise that you are not willing to be a scapegoat.
Keep your cool
Learn to remain calm and composed even in extremely irritating situations. Practice meditation or indulge in deep breathing exercises to avoid reacting to insensitive comments. Give yourself time to cool off before responding to an annoying e-mail or escalating a matter. Don't get drawn into an argument, instead say only a few words and get back to work.
Focus on the positive
Focus energies on the task at hand rather than mulling over the negativity and hostility around. It will not only divert attention from the unpleasantness but also highlight your skills and capabilities. Most importantly keep reminding yourself the reasons for taking up the job in the first place. It will give strength to survive each day and put up with the negativity.
Professional approach
Be professional and courteous despite being subjected to hostility at workplace. Avoid stooping to the offender's level by showing aggression either through words or body language. Keep your tone low and refrain from using profanity or insults since it would only worsen the situation.
Make an effort
Make an effort to resolve the misunderstandings or problems immediately rather than let them blow up. Approach the person concerned and listen to his point of view with an open mind.Exchange ideas about the various ways to solve the problem and finally work out a mutually decided solution.

Support network
Develop a support network at office to shareexperiences and gain perspective on issues. Having a strong professional relationship with a fellow worker gives a sense of encouragement and support. Like minded co-workers can help ward off feelings of isolation and loneliness in addition tosharing work load. Moreover, knowing that there are individuals in the organisation one can depend on gives the confidence to face detractors.
No gossip
Avoid engaging in workplace gossip since it only worsens the hostile environment. Draw a clear line between professional and personal life to make things easier at work. More than usual unnecessary socialisation in office leads to information being misinterpreted and misconstrued.

Plan B
Finally stay on the look out for alternate options outside the organisation. Despite all efforts there is always a possibility of the situation not improving and getting unbearable. Update your resume, develop skills and obtain additional qualifications to improve your chances of getting a better job. Network through professional associations and revive old contacts to find to a new job as soon as possible.

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