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Start Saying to SORRY !!!

Posted on Saturday, 29 September 2012 by Punjabi Articles


Why is it so hard to say the words we so desperately want to hear ?
Many times we turn the simple task of saying, “I’m sorry” into a chicken and egg game. Or worse, we use it to guilt others, or withhold it to hurt.
Do you find yourself actually taking the gift of an apology, whether given or received, as your opportunity to “win”? (If the word “but” is anywhere near the words “I’m sorry”, you aren’t apologizing, you’re trying to be right.)
Why?  Because you are missing two fundamental components of the foundation you need to build for a heartfelt apology that can be felt by the other person and by you!

 Accepting Responsibility
If you’re like most people, your perception of the situation is clouded by the hurt you’re feeling when someone you love is upset with you.  It also might be difficult for you to acknowledge and accept your reaction to any situation as being in your control.
Unfortunately, we live in a left-brain-logic controlled world, where the right side of the brain (passion, creativity, love) is locked up in a prison camp of right and wrong, only engaged when the left brain says, “hey we need to be upset here!”

#2 The Art Of Letting Go
This does NOT just mean you have to forgive and forget. You must heal your hurt too. However, if you can accept and acknowledge your contribution to the situation, this will free you from residue from the conflict.
The easiest way to let go is to ask YOURSELF one question, “Which is more valuable? The idea of being right, or the relationship?”

5 Ways To Say I’m Sorry And Show Them That You Mean It
   
Hug. It’s hard to stay mad when you hug someone. Physical touch can bridge the widest of emotional distances.

Write or find a poem showing how you feel about the other person outside of this situation. Keep it simple, give the poem to the person you wronged, and say, “I’m sorry. I know that might not be good enough right now and I’ve struggled to find the right words beyond I’m sorry. 

Create an online collage of 10 photos of amazing places you’ve been together or fun experiences you’ve shared.

Give the person a list of the top 5 reasons they are important to you. 

Make a donation to the other person’s favorite charity. Get a receipt of the donation, hand it to the other person and apologize by saying, “I’m sorry.

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How to Deal with rude people at work

Posted on Friday, 27 April 2012 by Punjabi Articles

We encounter rude people everywhere, especially at our work places.
They are simply…rude. There’s possibly no reason for them to be like that towards you, but they just are. It’s appalling at times: cutting you in the coffee line, or getting aggressive for no reason, or not responding when you greet them in the morning.
1.Turn around and face the perpetrator
Rude people are as worse as the bullies you faced in high school. You thought you’d never have to face them again in your adult life. But here they are again. Rude people think that they can get away with murder, a cocky confidence of being the alpha male or female of the pack. It could be a case ofmood swings, but there’s only so much you can take. Turn around and look them in the eye.
2 Gandhigiri
Remember Munnabhai and his wise words? This approach works sometimes. Say someone is knowingly or unknowingly being rude and arrogant towards you. For example, your office peon tells you in an acerbic tone to come and get your tea from the pantry, you don’t need to stoop to his level and raise your voice.
3 Don’t pay them much attention
Unfortunately, some people have never had the social training on how to be polite and well behaved in a civil society. There is no point in trying to change them. Avoiding them is the best option here. If you have to interact with them, keep your interaction to a minimum. Be the “hi, hello” kinds, as they say. Talk business and nothing else: “Please courier this packet to the mentioned address. Thanks.” The important thing to remember is to not lose your own temper, or else what’s the difference between that person and yourself?



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Food Etiquette Rules That Might Surprise You

Posted on Friday, 2 March 2012 by Punjabi Articles

Table manners are as unique to a culture as the food before you—though not always as easy to navigate

You have good manners, right? After all, you (usually) keep your elbows off the table and say "Please pass the salt." But when you head abroad, things get a little more complicated. Case in point: Rest your chopsticks the wrong way, and you might remind a Japanese friend of their grandmother's funeral.

In Thailand, don't put food in your mouth with a fork. 

Instead, when eating a dish with cooked rice, use your fork only to push food onto your spoon. A few exceptions: Some northern and northeastern Thai dishes are typically eaten with the hands—you'll know you've encountered such a dish if the rice used is glutinous or "sticky."

In Japan, never stick your chopsticks upright in your rice.

Between bites, your chopsticks should be placed together right in front of you, parallel to the edge of the table—and nowhere else, says Mineko Takane Moreno, Japanese cooking instructor and co-author of Sushi for Dummies. (If there is a chopsticks rest, you use it, putting the tips you've been eating with on the rest.) 

In the Middle East, India and parts of Africa, don't eat with your left hand. 

In South India, you shouldn't even touch the plate with your left hand while eating. That's largely because the left hand is associated with, um, bodily functions, so it's considered to be dirty. 

At a traditional feast in Georgia, it's rude to sip your wine. 

At what Georgians call a supra (traditional feast), wine is drunk only at toasts. So wait for those... and then down the whole glass at once.

In Mexico, never eat tacos with a fork and knife. 

Worried about spilling refried beans and salsa all over your front? Tough. Mexicans think that eating tacos with a fork and knife looks silly and, worse, snobby—kind of like eating a burger with silverware. So be polite: Eat with your hands.

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BE WELL MANNERED FIRST TO BE HEALTHY!

Posted on Saturday, 16 July 2011 by Punjabi Articles


A new research has found that people with good manners at work and at home are more than twice as likely to be in good health.

It found that those people tend to have more hygiene routines in place and take better care of their health and well-being. As a result, they suffer less from colds and cases of diarrhoea and are two-and-a-half times more likely to be in good health than those with poor manners.

The study, conducted by Dettol and the London School of Hygiene and Tropical Medicine, also found older people look after their health more than young people and also have better manners. Homemakers have the highest levels of personal and household hygiene, while office workers and students have the worst. Women also tend to be more hygienic than men. Everyone can change their behaviour and help to break the chain of infection.

Good manners are also at the heart of it – being aware and thinking how our behaviour affects us and those around us," the Daily Express quoted John Oxford, chairman of the Hygiene Council and professor of virology at Barts and The London School of Medicine and Dentistry, as saying.  "We're not powerless against infectious disease – everyone can contribute through simple hygiene measures such as washing our hands," he added.

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